THREE YEARS
It’s hard to believe that it has already been three years that Allan and I have been together. Time really does fly when you’re having fun! On Wednesday I spoke a lot about authenticity… and I am so happy that one of the things in my life that is very much authentic and the same online and offline, behind closed doors or in public, is my relationship with Allan.
This long weekend, we’re off to Tofino for some sun, relaxation, time with friends, and of course, much needed surf to celebrate our three year anniversary. It feels like it’s been way too long since we’ve been in the water and I’m looking forward to kick-starting a summer of surfing! We’ll be staying at Ocean Village in Tofino.
When Allan and I first met at work at the very first video game company I worked at, we were friends for nearly a year before we started dating. I pretty much had to bribe him to go out with me… but it worked, and we’ve been together ever since.
I honestly thought we would get bored of each other with the amount of time we spend together. The very three months of dating we were together almost 24/7 and well… three years later, not much has changed. It blows my mind that we’re still not sick of each other.
We have the same interests… we love surfing, snowboarding, cooking, scuba diving, relaxing, golfing, and now, even mountain biking together.
We hang out with each other’s groups of friends together.
We introduce each other to new things.
We travel together.
We have fun together.
We’re not perfect by any means… every relationship has ups and downs, and ours is no different. But we do manage to resolve our disagreements quickly, and try never to go to bed upset. We’ve worked extremely hard on our relationship… we’ve set aside time to work on problems, we’re gone through tough times together, we’ve done exercises, read through relationship books and workbooks, and even made sure to do a few counselling sessions a couple years ago. It’s made a world of difference, and I can honestly say our relationship is very strong, healthy, and happy.
Nothing comes easy, that’s for sure!
What’s I’ve realized most of all (thanks to my friends Kim and Liv), is that it’s a relationship worth fighting for. And when I think about it that way, I know that we have to put time and effort into it to make it work. But it’s worth it. And most good things in life you have to work and fight for.
We’re so compatible in terms of interests, personalities, values, lifestyle, humour, romance, and careers… that I honestly can’t imagine my life with anyone else. I know he’s the one. I can’t even count how many nights we’ve gone to bed laughing so hard that our pillows got wet with tears.
Allan is incredibly creative, smart, kind, generous, hard-working, athletic, and so so funny. I feel so very lucky to be with him. It’s weird to get off work and miss each other so much during the day that when he comes to pick me up, it’s like a big reunion. Every frickin’ day!
So here’s to you Allan…. Happy Three Year Anniversary! I can’t wait to surf with you this anniversary weekend, and have many more surf weekends throughout our lives. I love you.
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May 21st, 2010 at 11:56 am
I’m amazed you left out “HOCKEY” in your common interests!
Congratulations to you and Allan!
May 21st, 2010 at 2:19 pm
Congratulations for those 3 years!!
Love!
xxx
May 21st, 2010 at 2:20 pm
Congrats for those 3 years!!
I wish to find someone and make it last.
xxx
- Laura
May 21st, 2010 at 3:57 pm
Happy Happy Anniversary to you both…what a beautiful couple…Wishing you many many more happy years together♥♥♥
May 21st, 2010 at 5:43 pm
The big sincere wish I have for my children (now adults) is that they find their bliss/passion and have good friends, companions, and in the best of all worlds, committed life partners. The better to have fun and someone to play and dance through life with.
I am deeply happy that you two are happy and that you Allie value Allan’s deep qualities (besides being handsome and sexy). Is a mother supposed to mention that her son is sexy? (Well its true and that too is a gift of the Life Force).
It sounds good. I celebrate your togetherness. Paulette
May 22nd, 2010 at 3:25 am
Allie
Congratulations to you and Allan! I’m so happy for you.
Reading your post has made me think back over the last (nearly) 7 yrs of my relationship with my fiancée. Your words are refreshing and thoughtful. I too believe that the best things in life are worth fighting for and working hard at and you deserve true love and happiness
So keep fighting and enjoying and celebrating and laughing and loving
have a great long weekend together.
xo
May 22nd, 2010 at 5:56 am
Awh Allie! I’m a big pile of mush after reading that one
Happy Happy anniversary to you both and I can’t wait to see the happy couple in a few months. Allan’s mom’s comments really made me smile! Cheers to many many more years ahead together xoxo
May 22nd, 2010 at 9:59 am
Congratulations, Allie! You do sound matched in heaven
May 23rd, 2010 at 2:29 pm
such a lovely post! congrats on your anniversary!
May 24th, 2010 at 6:37 am
Congratulations to you both!
I love your blog, you write great posts and post beautiful pictures!
Best Regards from Brazil.
May 24th, 2010 at 10:26 am
What a sweet post. Happy Anniversary. You guys are darling, hope you have many more happy years together.
May 25th, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Your blog is so interesting. Congratulations on your 3 years with Allan. Here’s to many more happy memories. I like how you love life and really live it up!
As for having children, I can relate. I sometimes have doubts about raising kids as well. It’s a very scary thing and we shouldn’t feel pressured by society’s norms. Maybe somewhere down the line, I think adoption would be wonderful.
I look forward to reading your future posts!
May 26th, 2010 at 2:37 pm
Congratulation for your dating anniversary !
Such a relationship is a real precious treasure, keep it
(I just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary with my husband and I could have written almost the same things you did).
May 26th, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Congratulations on 3 years! Here’s to another 3 years and many more!
I am so glad you briefly touched on making use of counselling sessions. Such sessions are so important in teaching us how to “fight fair” and communicating as we all know we don’t have ESP and often take each other for granted. Some things books can’t teach and someone who is well-educated and has loads of experience can obbjectively help a couple work through various issues that result in a stronger and happier relationship at a time when so many couples give up at the slightest disagreement.
Kudos to you two!
June 7th, 2010 at 9:48 pm
Yay! I’m sooo happy for you
I love all your posts. Have fun 
June 7th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
sorry about the picture I thought it would show up as the small icon. I can’t figure out how to delete it.